• Many candidates from "Koh-Lanta" say they wanted to participate to make their children proud.
  • One example among others: Celia, the first eliminated from the season currently broadcast on TF1, told us: "I wanted them to be proud of me and there, it will not be the case".
  • But, as child psychiatrist Stéphane Clerget explains to 20 Minutes, appearing on the show is not the guarantee of making the pride of his offspring: "Some sequences are not always for the benefit of the candidate who may feel ridiculous or devalued. Moral disappointment is also a risk. »

"I participate in 'Koh-Lanta' because I want my children to be proud of me." If we played bingo of the cliché phrases of the adventure game of TF1, it would be ticked off each episode. There are countless adventurers who, every year, play the heroic parent card.

Celia, first eliminated of the season currently broadcast, confided to us that her early departure was for her "the worst possible scenario" and that she was "not worthy of (her) sons". At the end of the line, we felt that the 49-year-old mother was not laughing: several months after the shooting, she had not recovered from her underperformance in the obstacle course. "I wanted them to be proud of me and that won't be the case," she added while her two grown boys aged 18 and 22 had not yet seen the show. Celia, first eliminated of the season currently broadcast, confided to us that her early departure was for her "the worst possible scenario" and that she was "not worthy of (her) sons". At the end of the line, we felt that the 49-year-old mother was not laughing: several months after the shooting, she had not recovered from her underperformance in the obstacle course. "I wanted them to be proud of me and that won't be the case," she added while her two grown boys aged 18 and 22 had not yet seen the show.

"When my son knew I was a candidate, he was crazy"

Alexandre, another adventurer of the "sacred fire", assured us that he wished to make his offspring proud: "When my son knew that I was going to be a candidate, he was crazy. One day when I accompanied him to school, he said to the teacher: "It was my dad who made Koh-Lanta!" My nieces also ask a lot of questions. Alexander, another adventurer of the "sacred fire", assured us that he wished to make his offspring proud: "When my son knew I was going to be a candidate, he was crazy. One day when I accompanied him to school, he said to the teacher: "It was my dad who made Koh-Lanta!" My nieces also ask a lot of questions. »

Elodie, also involved in the current season, has no children but says she understands these parents. "We each have a reason to sign up for 'Koh-Lanta'. I wanted to prove that I was a fighter and take revenge on life. However, no one on the island was there only for their children. Deep down we all love the sporty, the adventure, going to the end of ourselves. »

Paved in the pond: isn't there a little hypocrisy in the speech of these parents? The child psychiatrist Stephane Clerget does not really follow us on this trial of intent. "The candidates are probably partly sincere because" they themselves are proud to go to "Koh-Lanta". So they think that their children, who are their extension, are too. The doctor adds a but: "It's also a way to sweep away any possible guilt. That of being absent, of having fun away from your children. But also that of harming his children. From experience, for some whose parents have done reality TV, it is not obvious. In college, classmates can be mocking. The idea that parents can show themselves, this star, some of it can suffer between the ages of 11 and 14. »

"Moral disappointment is a risk"

Even if they are between 21 and 30 years old, the children of Christine, another adventurer of the current season of "Koh-Lanta" had confided their worries. "They were afraid to know how I was going to be perceived and wondered about the fallout," says the forty-year-old. They are reassured because it turns out that it is only positive. »

It is true that if TF1's flagship show fully plays the card of heroism and adventure, overall positive values, it is also conducive to petty remarks, twisted strategies, betrayals ... "Some sequences are not always to the benefit of the candidate who may feel ridiculous or devalued," says Stephane Clerget. Moral disappointment is also a risk – but you can also be disappointing at home. »

How then, to manage the shame that can be inspired in his little one? "The risk can be modulated if you explain to him that it's a show where you play a role, that it's like fiction," he says. Today, the youngest understand well the notions of scenarios, the requirements of the audiovisual sector. They can hear that we are playing a character. It is more annoying with classmates, especially at the middle school level, who may criticize the child. There, it will be harder to defend yourself. »

"Another look at parents"

However, for the author of ypersensible, hyperamorous published by La Musardine editions, there is nothing to refrain from trudging the hard way in the middle of the Pacific Ocean in front of the cameras of TF1 to protect the youngest. On the contrary. However, for the author of Hypersensible, hyperamoureux published by La Musardine editions, there is nothing to forbid yourself from trudging the hard way in the middle of the Pacific Ocean in front of the cameras of TF1 to protect the youngest. On the contrary.

"It's interesting for children to observe their parents in a context other than that of the home, to see them in their social life, in the street and, why not, in a TV show. It gives them another look: their parents are not only that but also people who love, have fun, play sports. Today, we are so on the backs of our children, we feel so guilty for never doing enough for them, that it is a good thing for the child to tell himself that he is not 100% the center of interest of his parents. This pushes him to look elsewhere than around his navel. »

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